Umbrella Academy Ramblings (Spoilers)

 I think the Luther/Allison relationship is troubling for a lot of reasons, not anything to do with 'too much' focus on romance, which I don't think is overly much of a concern in the show, although I do think the 'lonely girl falls for evil dude because he's the only one who will pay attention to her' is a pretty sexist trope when, like, a sympathetic friend would have highlighted even more of the show's themes and been better character development. I do think the show focused too much on Luther altogether, because he's very boring and I don't think the show would've suffered if he'd simply been written out of it. Anyway, the problems are as follows:

• social myth: men and women aren't capable of being platonic friends, and must always have sexual tension
• social myth: men and women of different races aren't capable of being platonic friends
• social myth: men being attracted to women/women being attracted to men is normal and expected even in taboo circumstances, other types of attraction would not occur under taboo circumstances even if otherwise available
• social myth: adopted families aren't real families and adopted siblings aren't really related
• social myth: people of the same race can be 'real families' if they're adopted, but people of different races can't
• social myth: woc are attracted to the strength and virility of white men and can't help but become romantically obsessed
• social myth: woc are more likely to engage in obscene/perverse/taboo sexual and romantic relationships, esp. can't tell
• social myth: poc can't have familial relationships and don't understand familial love
• social myth: everyone wants and seeks out romance in any life circumstance
• pseudoscientific myth: people of 'different races' aren't as genetically related and don't have to worry about recessive disorders
• pseudoscientific myth: people of 'different races' don't form familial bonds during childhood/can 'just tell' they 'aren't the same'
• uncomfortable narrative trope: people don't change over time and knowing someone once means being able to accurately predict their behavior forever, even after a period of several years with little to no contact
• uncomfortable narrative trope: being in love once means being in love forever/feelings can't and don't change
• uncomfortable narrative trope: abuse makes people incapable of observing social taboos/insulates them from fallout
• uncomfortable narrative trope: woc (especially black woman) has a large part of her personality, motivation, or plot arc defined by relationship to white man, especially romantic relationship
• uncomfortable narrative trope: woc 'behaves better' or is more moral when in romantic relationship with white man
• uncomfortable narrative trope: woc can't be important character unless in a relationship that subordinates her to a more important part of the story, woc defined by relationship to team leader
• uncomfortable narrative trope: man defined by physical strength must seek out strong and masculine woman to be his equal partner in romance, combined with social myth: black women are masculine, social myth: black women are more physical than other women
• uncomfortable narrative trope: love heals, love conquers all
• uncomfortable narrative trope: people, especially women, are mostly concerned over romance instead of the world ending

and a lot of this could be mitigated by either having more romantic relationships have developed between more of the siblings, or even just a mention of them being uncomfortable with or wary of the relationship because it was incest, but the fact that it's the only one and that it's treated as so central to the narrative is pretty troubling.